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Undependence
Undependence
by Apostle Dr Yenan Y. Silen-Perez
“Undependence” is a term Penelope Russianoff uses in her book to describe that desirable balance wherein we acknowledge and meet our healthy, natural needs for people and love, yet we don’t become overly or harmfully dependent on them. (Beattie100)
How can we prevent from being callous when we try to be undependent?
First we need to surrender to our dependency and acknowledge we are out of control. When you are codependent you always want someone to rescue you. Surrender in Jesus feet. Get in touch with you inner self allow yourselve to grieve. Not being centered in ourselves and not feeling emotionally secure with ourselves may trap us (Beattie 100). Acknowledge your needs and emotions, yes you have been abused, yes your needs have not been meet, but what you were doing is not working. You can not save yourself, but Jesus can save you. He can rescue you. He can take care for you. He can love you; he can and he will if you surrender to him. Now that you are surrendered to his power you can go back and make peace with the memories of your child and look at them through Jesus eyes. Now you can go back secure in his arms, that none of those memories can't hurt you any more.
1. Finish up business from your childhoods, as best as you can. Grieve. Get some perspective. Figure out how events from your childhoods are affecting what you're doing now.(Beattie 104)
2. Stop looking for happiness in other people. Our source of happiness and well- being is not inside others; it’s in God. Inside of you when you depend in the Spirit of God that is in you.
3. We can learn to depend on Jesus. Maybe other people have not been there for us, but we can depend in God that He will provide what we need inside and out side.
4. Yes, we can depend in God. He will take care of our emotional, physical, and spiritual needs.
5. Learn, read, go out follow Jesus, be his disciple.
Reference:
Beattie Melody, Codependent No More, Hazelden, Minnesota, copyright 1992
by Apostle Dr Yenan Y. Silen-Perez
“Undependence” is a term Penelope Russianoff uses in her book to describe that desirable balance wherein we acknowledge and meet our healthy, natural needs for people and love, yet we don’t become overly or harmfully dependent on them. (Beattie100)
How can we prevent from being callous when we try to be undependent?
First we need to surrender to our dependency and acknowledge we are out of control. When you are codependent you always want someone to rescue you. Surrender in Jesus feet. Get in touch with you inner self allow yourselve to grieve. Not being centered in ourselves and not feeling emotionally secure with ourselves may trap us (Beattie 100). Acknowledge your needs and emotions, yes you have been abused, yes your needs have not been meet, but what you were doing is not working. You can not save yourself, but Jesus can save you. He can rescue you. He can take care for you. He can love you; he can and he will if you surrender to him. Now that you are surrendered to his power you can go back and make peace with the memories of your child and look at them through Jesus eyes. Now you can go back secure in his arms, that none of those memories can't hurt you any more.
1. Finish up business from your childhoods, as best as you can. Grieve. Get some perspective. Figure out how events from your childhoods are affecting what you're doing now.(Beattie 104)
2. Stop looking for happiness in other people. Our source of happiness and well- being is not inside others; it’s in God. Inside of you when you depend in the Spirit of God that is in you.
3. We can learn to depend on Jesus. Maybe other people have not been there for us, but we can depend in God that He will provide what we need inside and out side.
4. Yes, we can depend in God. He will take care of our emotional, physical, and spiritual needs.
5. Learn, read, go out follow Jesus, be his disciple.
Reference:
Beattie Melody, Codependent No More, Hazelden, Minnesota, copyright 1992
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