SEXUAL ABUSE IN CHILDS AND ADOLECENTS

[Juan and Yenan]

SEXUAL ABUSE IN CHILDS AND ADOLECENTS
The sinful nature of a person that needs to dominate one who is visualized as less, an object or a possession, abuses by imposing his power and control, which manifests as sexual abuse. Sexual abuse is extremely complicated because of the power differential between the adult and child or adolescent; because of the excessive control and manipulation manifested by an adult as negotiations between adult and child begin; and because the child’s trust is violated and exposed to a distorted message of intimacy. Child sexual abuse includes all the other forms of abuse, such as: neglect, emotional or psychological, physical and spiritual. Regardless of the child’s behavior or reaction, sexual abuse is never the child’s fault.

Sexual abuse is the maximum manifestation of power and control abuse. Doctor Dan B. Allender defines sexual abuse in his book, The Wounded Heart, as:
Any contact or interaction (visual, verbal, or psychological) between a child/ adolescent and an adult when the child/adolescent is being used for the sexual stimulation of the perpetrator or any other person. Sexual abuse may be committed by a person under the age of eighteen when that person is either significantly older than the victim or when the perpetrator is in a position of power or control over the victimized child/adolescent. When an adult or older child who is a blood or legal relative perpetrates the sexual abuse, it constitutes incest, or interfamilial sexual abuse. (48)

Dr. R. Timothy Kearney in his book, Caring for the Sexually Abused Child, expresses that:
Child sexual abuse may include any kind of sexual act between a child and an adult or between an infant or young child and a significantly older child. Sexual acts may include touching the other genitalia (by the abuser or victim or both).

Exposure of the perpetrator’s or child genitalia, including photography or videotaping; requiring a child to view or participate in adult sexual activity; masturbation in front of a child or by rubbing against a child; oral sex by a child to the perpetrator or the perpetrator to a child; and any type of penetration of a child’s vagina or anus by a penis, finger or other object. (16, 7)

Based on Dr. Allender, there are two broad categories of sexual abuse: sexual contact and sexual interactions, which he defines as:
Sexual contact involves any type of physical touch that is designed to arouse sexual desire (physical or psychological) in the victim and/or the perpetrator. Physical touch can include at the most severe level forced or non-forced intercourse, oral or anal sex; at the severe level forced or non-forced manual vaginal stimulation or penetration, breast fondling, or any form of simulated intercourse; and at the least severe level, forced or non-forced sexual kissing, touch of clothed breasts, buttocks, thighs, or genitals. The categories imply a continuum of severity, but all abusive sexual contact is damaging and soul distorting (Allender 48).

Sexual interactions are far harder to acknowledge because they do not involve physical touch and, therefore, do not seem as severe. Interactions can be categorized as visual, verbal, or psychological. Sexual interactions involve more emotional and mental damage because of the lack of clear actions that can be supported by others. Sexual interactions welcome comments of denial by the perpetrator and or family circle and doubt over the victim interpretations. Clarifying sexual interaction languages will help the client to receive the reassurance that her mental health needs (ibid 48).

Dr. Allender also identifies visual and verbal interactions, which become part of the perpetrator tactics to manifest his excess of power and control over the victim, these are: visual interactions and verbal interactions.

Visual sexual abuse involves interaction where the child is forced or invited to watch sexually arousing scenes or pictures or is observed by the perpetrator in a state of undress that is arousing to the adult (ibid 49). Visual interactions such as: exposure to or use of pornography; intentional exposure to sexual acts, sexual organs, and/or sexually provocative attire (bra, nigh-ties, slip, underwear); inappropriate attention (scrutiny) directed toward body (clothed or unclothed) or clothing for purpose of sexual stimulation (ibid 51).

Sexual verbal interactions can be verbal comments about sexual development and/or appearance that denote an interest, and/or verbally degrading the sexual identity. Verbal sexual abuse can also come in the form of suggestions or seductive interactions. Sexually abusive words can produce the same damage as sexually abusive contact (ibid 50). Sexual verbal interactions such as: direct solicitation for sexual purposes; seductive (subtle) solicitation or innuendo; description of sexual practices; repeated use of sexual language and sexual terms as personal names (ibid 51).

Psychological sexual abuse will occur through verbal or visual means (usually both) but will involve more subtle (nonspecific, more mood-generating) communication that erodes the appropriate role boundaries between a child and an adult (ibid 51).

“Psychological sexual abuse include violations such as: physical/sexual boundary: which can be intrusive interest in menstruation, clothing, pubic development; repeated use of enemas; sexual/relational boundary violation: which are intrusive interest in child’s sexual activity, use of child as a spouse surrogate (confidant, intimate companion, protector, or counselor)” (ibid).

Excrept from Dr Yenan book A NEW DIAGNOSIS: Healing the Wounds from an Abusive Past, all copyrights reserves

[Juan and Yenan]

AMEN, SISTER THANK YOU SO MUCH FOR YOUR COURAGE TO SHARE AND FIGHT. I CAN RELATE I WAS A VICTIM A SURVIVOR AND ALSO A PARENT OF 3 FEMALES. YOU CAN UPLOAD INFORMATION AS ATTACHMENTS IN HERE. YOU CAN COPY AND PASTE ALSO. FEEL FREE TO BRING AND TO GIVE TEHRE IS NOTHING MOST POWERFUL THAN TO GIVE BY GRACE WHAT WE HAVE RECEIVE BY GRACE.

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BE BLESSED SISTER

[Juan and Yenan]

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[Juan and Yenan]

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