When the abuse begin...

[Juan and Yenan]

Many times we are in abusive relationship but because we have not experience a broken bone, or never had the need to go to the hospital for care and/or treatment, we keep quiet about the abuse.

The reality is that in almost all abusive relationship the aggression will increase and when the time to ask for help and/or protection come many victims have no evidence of been abused.

That is why, it is best to disclosure and report to authorities any abusive behavior and follow through with the legal process.

If your spouse never have pushed you, but this time he/she did it. You can call the police and report. You can ask the police to make a report of your statement.

Abuse is imposing power and control polices are authorities which represent the goverment power and control. They will let you know your rights and will inform your spouse that he/she is crossing the limits and what are the consequences. You will also start documenting any abusive behavior. Many time reporting minor incidents could avoid mayor ones. The abuser now, knows that you will report him/her and he/she will think better before acting out the next time.

You can report any behavior identify in the power and control wheel. You can report emotional, verbal, and physical attacks. Does not excuse the abusive behavior. It is better to let your spouse know that you will not tolerate any abusive behavior than to wait until he/she has destroyed your self esteem, and feel that he/she own you. Remember once a person cross the line of disrespect and dishonor in a relationship the abuse will increase with time.