Share, Why respecting your husband?

[Juan and Yenan]

The bible command us to RESPECT our husband.

...and the wife must respect her husband. (Ephesians 5:33)


CAN YOU SHARE YOUR COMMENTS ON WHY, RESPECTING YOUR HUSBAND?

[Apostle Dr. Lee Ann Marino]

Because all people deserve respect. Marriages must have a component of respect for each individual to survive. Most failed marriages falter because one or both parties feel disrespected by the other.

[Lynda Cleland]

To respect a husband is harder for a woman, than to love him, as it requires a higher level of trust and a Biblical understanding of Spiritual headship.

Women from previous abused relationships may find this quite a challange as they have not known or exerienced the kind of Love that Christ is talking about, as often their experience of so called love, has been distorted through abuse & fear.

Likewise husband's may find it harder to love & to connect on an emotional level with their wifes.

However according to Scripture it would appear that Christ demands more of the Man, to Love, than the woman to respect, as He asks the man if he is willing to lay down his life for her & to love her as He Himself Love's the Church. (which is quite a task & responsibility)

I believe that if a woman truly experienced the kind of Love that Christ requires of the man, then a woman would find it easier to respect, as on a human level every man likes to be appreciated, built up etc and every woman likes to be loved & cared for.

[Lynda Cleland]

Lynda Cleland said:

To respect a husband is harder for a woman, than to love him, as it requires a higher level of trust and a Biblical understanding of Spiritual headship.

Women from previous abused relationships may find this quite a challange as they have not known or exerienced the kind of Love that Christ is talking about, as often their experience of so called love, has been distorted through abuse & fear.

Likewise husband's may find it harder to love & to connect on an emotional level with their wifes.

However according to Scripture it would appear that Christ demands more of the Man, to Love, than the woman to respect, as He asks the man if he is willing to lay down his life for her & to love her as He Himself Love's the Church. (which is quite a task & responsibility)

I believe that if a woman truly experienced the kind of Love that Christ requires of the man, then a woman would find it easier to respect, as on a human level every man likes to be appreciated, built up etc and every woman likes to be loved & cared for. So why do we have to do these things?

Its simple.

To reflect the image of Christ in our daily lives, to each other & as a witness to others. Amen

[Juan and Yenan]

Sister can you share what is your undertanding of spiritual headship and how this relate to respecting your husband.

Lynda Cleland said:

Lynda Cleland said:

Lynda Cleland said:

To respect a husband is harder for a woman, than to love him, as it requires a higher level of trust and a Biblical understanding of Spiritual headship.

Women from previous abused relationships may find this quite a challange as they have not known or exerienced the kind of Love that Christ is talking about, as often their experience of so called love, has been distorted through abuse & fear.

Likewise husband's may find it harder to love & to connect on an emotional level with their wifes.

However according to Scripture it would appear that Christ demands more of the Man, to Love, than the woman to respect, as He asks the man if he is willing to lay down his life for her & to love her as He Himself Love's the Church. (which is quite a task & responsibility)

I believe that if a woman truly experienced the kind of Love that Christ requires of the man, then a woman would find it easier to respect, as on a human level every man likes to be appreciated, built up etc and every woman likes to be loved & cared for. So why do we have to do these things?

Its simple.

To reflect the image of Christ in our daily lives, to each other & as a witness to others. Amen

[Mary Smith-Moore]

resources: Nancy C. Anderson and Sons and Daughters of the American Tradition

Behind every successful man, there is a dutiful wife. This has always been true. In fact, no better example of Tradition can be found than the Tradition of marriage.

We all have our roles to play. The man is the breadwinner, and you are the homemaker. It is a glorious calling. Learn to love it.

All women strive to be perfect wives, but an important part of this is respecting your husband. As you learn to properly respect your husband, you will come to respect yourself as well.

Ephesians 5:33 “Nevertheless let each one of you in particular so love his own wife as himself, and let the wife see that she respects her husband”

-- treat your husband like a V.I.P. Respect him Verbally, Intellectually, and Physically.

Verbally

Cut out (ok…cut back) complaining and add in compliments.

If you want to have a peaceful, happy marriage, learn the art of the compliment. Compliments are like magnets and the more you compliment your husband the more he will be attracted to you. Begin to notice when he does it right and verbally encourage him by complimenting him at least once a day. If you are having a hard time thinking of anything to admire, consider these categories: physical traits, mental skills, financial strengths, spiritual growth, or healthy relationships with others (children, parents, or friends).

You may be asking “Hey, why should I compliment him when he NEVER compliments me?” Because, if you want your marriage to grow and bloom, you’ll have to water it with kindness and encouragement. Then, as he sees your sincere efforts, he will begin to change too. Don’t give up.

If you do need to bring up a difficult issue, place it between two compliments, also known as a “Compliment Sandwich.” Here’s an example, “Honey, I know how hard you work for our money and that Sally’s braces will be expensive, but I need your decision before her appointment tomorrow. I hope we can do this for her, but if you want to wait, I trust your judgment. What should I tell the orthodontist? ”

Intellectually

Men like to solve problems and fix things. So appeal to his intelligence by asking him to help you solve a problem. Instead of saying “This garage is a mess, clean up your camping stuff!” Try, “I’d like your help with something. Could you figure out a storage system for all the camping supplies?”

Don’t imply that he isn’t smart. Instead of saying “I think you are wrong about…” Say, “I’m confused about…please explain it again” (Remember to keep your tone of voice sarcasm-free.)

Request his help on Spiritual matters too. Ask him to explain a passage of Scripture or ask him to pray for you when you are going through a difficult time. If your husband is not the spiritual leader in your home, continue to pray for him and ask him if there is anything you are doing that is hindering his relationship with God.

Men don’t give a lot of weight to feelings -- show them facts and they’ll be more likely to listen. For example: if he wants to buy a car that you think is too expensive, don’t launch into a hissy-fit, write out your monthly expenses and ask him what other things should be cut out in order to buy his car. Let the facts speak for you.

When you cannot reach an agreement, instead of trying to wear him down by nagging or crying say, “Is that your final decision or can I still try to convince you?" If it’s his final decision, then honor it. It’s freeing ? let him carry the responsibility of your family.

Physically

Physically -- ask what he would like you to do and then, do it. Find out what his top three needs are. Ron likes the laundry done, physical intimacy a least twice a week (guaranteed) and he likes me to keep my “girly-make-up stuff” off of the bathroom counter. If these top needs are met, he’s content and easy to get along with. I know it sounds simple, but each of us have different things that make us feel loved and appreciated. You won’t know what he wants unless you ask him.

Be aware of your body language. You can communicate disrespect by rolling your eyes, crossing your arms, or slamming doors. Reflect your new decision to respect your husband in your heart, mind, and body.

Change your attitude and actions

Respect is both a verb and a noun: an action and an attitude so begin today to respect your husband in thought, word, and deed. He will be more willing and able to give you the love and affection you need if he is respected and admired. When I began to respect my husband, he was skeptical at first. However as he saw that I was committed to change, he began to treat me differently ? lovingly. We now teach at couples’ events, helping others discover the blessings of true love in action.

Ask the Lord to strengthen you as you obey His word.

Philippians 4:13 I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me.